Forgiveness

There are two types of forgiveness.

The forgiveness in which you forgive another.
And,
The forgiveness in which you forgive yourself.

Forgiving Another.
While it may seem impossible to do this, our souls cannot move on holding a grudge. It takes time to rebuild trust and accept upsetting moments. God wants us to forgive, always move on from the past and make the better out of our situations.
-Everything happens for a reason.

Forgiving Yourself
One of the hardest people to forgive is yourself! Many people believe that they do not deserve to be forgiven and that whatever it is they did has now been glued to them for life. This is not true and it's not what god wants for us. Forgiving yourself is necessary to moving forward in your life and eliminating the fears of trying new things. If you need help, the best thing to do is to pray and ask god for forgiveness, and repent. If you feel you must talk to someone, there are many registered therapists in the phone book, and many even online.

http://www.therapyonline.ca

You are never alone!

My sources and some good reads!

http://www.allaboutgod.com/forgiving-yourself.htm

grieving a loss.

Throughout our life we experience a great deal of loss, this being one large part of life that holds us back from moving on.
On july 11th, 2009 I was at my boyfriends house hosting his birthday party when I got a phone call from a detective. The words were shattering. My best friend, the one person who understood me, so close that we were apart of eachother, had passed away in her sleep suddenly. Needless to say, it was the worst day of my life so far. I spent the entire summer constantly around someone, I couldnt be alone. It still hurts more than any physical pain iv'e ever felt. Grief can cause an enormous amount of depression and lingering thoughts about bad ideas. No one can get through it alone!
I'm not sure at this point in time what to do about grieving and if there is one specific thing you can do to help move on, all I can say is that it's probably going to take a long time for myself and many others to think about the situation without tears.

It's obviously not healthy to stay stuck in one part of your life, and therapy may help. The people who helped me the most and are still helping are my closest friends, family, and my loving boyfriend whos been through it with me the whole way. It can seriously dammage your life to stay stuck in depression due to grief, and we're all quite sure that our loved ones don't want that for us. If you are experiencing grief, I would say the best idea is to seek out counciling, wether it be a therapist or even your pastor who can help you understand death.

I am currently stuck in denial after over 8 months now. It may not be healthy, but we all move at our own pace. Do not be discouraged if you are going through this stage as well and can not move on, you will eventually!

Trust in god.
Love in life.
Never stop trying.

Food

So, I have recently been discovering the benefits of eating healthy and not over-indulging, which for some of us can be very challenging.
The magazine Healthy Living is always up to date with the new information on what health care products work and new health forward meal ideas.

Curious?
Check it out!
www.healthylivingmagazine.ca

Im currently trying to avoid unhealthy snacking. And enduring regular visits to the gym. It IS possible!!

To anyone with weight problems, Portions!
Try out a food scale that can help you keep track of what your consuming and keep check on the calorie and carbohydrate intake. Take note that :

Average calorie intake per day is anywhere from 1940-3550 calories/day. This depends on your current weight and body type.
One pound of body fat is equal to 3500 calories.

Want to know how many calories you should be intaking?
Use the calorie counter to find out.

http://opentoronto.com/calculators/diet_calorie_calculator.php

The Meaning of Life

So I havn't posted in a while. here goes.


Discover Meaning in your life!

I have been going on and on about this and its so true indeed that a life to live by is a life with purpose.

Make your life meaningful!

Meaning

So today I went for a job interview, and what I thought went bad actually went pretty well.I have a secondary interview tommorow. I feel amazing. I finally feel like im going somewhere! Like I have purpose! :D

Lesson for today! Find Meaning!
The difference between depression and happiness?
Meaning!
When youve found something in your life that has meaning to you, all the better reason to live.

So go out into the world and create meaning in your life!

-find a better job
-Find a common ground with an enemy
-start a family
-get a pet
-build something
-do something
-go skydiving!

The list goes on and on, and the point...
Find something in your life or create a new something in your life that means a great deal to you and add that into why you wake up in the morning.

Therapy

So this weekend I painted a room in my house and I never realized how hard painting can be when you don't know how to do it properly. However, I found it to be kind of therapeutic. Once I got the hang of it, it became a task that had to be finished, otherwise it would look pretty dumb. So when I went to bed last night, I woke up knowing that I had something to do in the morning and that made me get up out of bed. I planned to go to the gym today, didn`t end up doing it.
Does anyone know if excersize actually does something for you other than the obvious body weight change? I have yet to experience it but I assume excersize is beneficial to living a healthy life.

So an end note for today because I`m watching the hockey game and don`t feel like writing much more...

1) Find something good for yourself to do everyday that you enjoy, like painting, doing the dishes, ect. These things you have to do anyways, so why not have fun doing them.

2) Excersize. Don`t skip the gym, find the time in your day even if it`s only for an hour. You may be like me, and think that as long as you can mannage your weight through food, you dont need to excersize regularily, but seeing as doctors and nutritionists tell us everyday that it is important, it probably is.

I must Post!

So I have decided that I am going to try out posting blogs as some sort of therapeutic ranting. I am not sure what I intend to get out of this or if anyone will actually read it. I do apologize in advance for any spelling or gramatical errors I may make.

My first topic then I guess will be stress and anger. Since I am using this as a form of therapy, this must mean that I need a de-stresser. I have seen what stress can do to someone, i.e. my mother. Unfortunately, most people who experience stress can only do such things as to promote more stress. Anxious people should be looking ahead into ways to reduce their stress even if they find that there is no way to ever feel bliss again.

Where does stress come from?
Many things.
Big stresser number 1? Anger
Anger is our way of dealing with a situation we feel we either have no control over or simply dislike.

How to deal?
Be Happy, yes, it's that simple.

-When something happens that you have no control over, consider the positive side of things, there is always a positive, even if its not a big one.

-Always be thankful for what you do have instead of focusing on the greed and unhapiness of not getting everything that you want.

-Catch yourself before you explode. As soon as you feel yourself about to burst out in anger, try to calm yourself down and analyze the situation.

-Don't sweat the little things. I have heard this expression many times, it literally means to not sweat over fine details.Noone cares that your nail polish does not match your outfit.

-Use positive words like I will, and try to say yes whenever you can and feel comfortable doing so. NEVER SAY NEVER!! This one is a dooozie. My boyfriend and I have had many discussions on the negative effects of the word never. When used in an angry conotation, the word never means NOT ,at no point in time. This can lead to the stress of not only an argument but also a personal thought of failure. When you think about the word never, think about what you are applying that word too and if you are using it correctly. To never do something can be a negative start to a choice. Always try new things, and if you must NEVER try them again, at least you won't be able to say that you've NEVER done it.


Credits
http://www.turnonyourinnerlight.com/RidAnger.html